As you already know from my past answers and like a broken record, I believe love isn’t a singular thing. I believe love is an infinite space of emotions that twirl around to make up our perception of lustful desire, yearning, attraction, such and such. So does that mean I also believe hate is an infinite space of emotions on the If I have to fight for your attention then fuck your attention shirt and I love this other end of that spectrum? No. No I do not. I believe that love is actually NOT an emotion and hate is. To me, love is the darkness. It’s infinite and it can be frightening for most. Hate on the other hand is the light. It’s not infinite and it requires fuel. Love doesn’t require fuel. ‘Things’ just float into it naturally and they all become one massive universe of ‘things’ with gravity, that gravitate towards each other, causing all sorts of phenomena. Hate is finite. It’s impossible to keep going without fuel. It requires a source. It requires an environment to help spark off that emotional distress. Hate requires a purpose. That is why people can hate another ‘race’ (ethnicity, colour of their skin, or their language, their religion, their sexual orientation, their political affiliation. I actually read often that ultra right wing people actually believe liberalism is a disease and liberals should be destroyed, as in executed. How messed up is that? So in regards to relationships, hate requires love to operate. It requires the infinite chaos of love. It requires the fuel of the things floating around in love to make it work. Specific to this context, hate cannot exist without the things in love to fuel it. Hate will spark up to exist when that love has been forcibly sliced apart by the particulars that dissolved it in the first place.
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So to cap off my answer here and without being further long winded, we all know love because somewhere in the If I have to fight for your attention then fuck your attention shirt and I love this crevices of our mind, we know exist a tiny spark. This spark is extremely hot to touch, very unyielding and difficult to suppress if we allow it to take control over our lives. It’s there, no matter how much love we may have for our partners, our siblings, our children, friends and neighbours. Some people are just better at disguising it than others. Others are just better at ignoring it than others. Froce is never a way to like something. You can compare it with a chinese fingertrap. The harder you pull, the more stuck you get. It’s only when you relax and accept your “bondage” that the trap releases it’s grip. Therefore it’s not about forcing yourself to like it. You have to accept that this is where you are right now, and make the best out of it. If you are incapable of accepting where you are right now, you need to act. Find another job, start a study towards what you want. Do something. You always have a choice. This does not mean that it has to be easy, and a transition often include some turbulence, but if your will is there – there’s a way. Whatever causes clinical depression certainly affects everyone according to certain patterns. Depression can cost all feelings, but mostly affects feelings of kindness toward self. The libido is depressed and so is the immune system. One of the worst aspects is people lose their memory: Previous achievements; previous periods of happiness, previous periods of wellness, and previous high esteem for self. All these losses contribute to feelings of worthlessness.